What my soul is really hungry for

My feelings get all tangled up in my food.  When I feel joy, I want to eat.  When I feel sad, I want the comfort of food.  When I get embarrassed and feel ashamed, food is what I turn to.  When I have made it through a long, stressful day and want a reward, food is there. But it doesn't satisfy because what I really was hungry for was peace and quiet and maybe a romantic comedy.
I have made progress in my quest to make peace with food.   But there are moments and nights (especially nights) when I fall off the wagon and I eat and eat and eat.  And then I don't feel good about myself and my stomach doesn't feel good either.  And I wonder where did I lose my passion to eat healthy and to nurture myself?  How did I lose the connection of who I am and what I believe?

There are ways that I do keep the connection.  Let me count them.

  1. Wear a bracelet I got from Amazon.  It has the word NURTURE on it and I hunted for an hour online just to find it.  When I wear the bracelet, I feel empowered and I remember that I love myself and want to feed myself foods that will give me energy and make me feel strong.
  2. Write in a journal for 15 minutes a day.  I sip a cup of peppermint tea while I write what is in my heart.  I don't sift the words.  I just write and spill my feelings out.  I think getting my feelings down on paper helps a lot.  On the days when I take the time to do this, I am more likely to stay connected to my goal of healthy eating.
  3. Pretend I am at a spa and treat myself to real food with simple ingredients and lots of flavor.  I may have salmon with fresh rosemary and lemon slices cooked in parchment paper.  And I will sip water out of a crystal goblet.  I feel special and I fill up on the good stuff, and then I feel good.
  4. Stop to enjoy nature.  Look at the gorgeous view of the water right by the playground.  Take a walk down the block and listen to the birds sing.  When I take time to slow down, and enjoy the beauty of nature I am more likely to stay connected to the truth that I do want to nurture myself.
  5. Do yoga or exercise.  Moving in a healthy way helps me stay connected to my true self.  I do want to move in healthy ways and eat in healthy ways and take care of myself, truly I do.
  6. Listen to inspiring music.  The song "Simple Gifts" by Jewel is one that particularly speaks to my soul.  I have always been a simple person at heart.  I don't like complicated, intricate things.  The simple things speak to me and fill me with joy.  This song keeps me grounded and helps me stay connected to me.
  7. Look at Pinterest at my favorite quotes.  I am a word person.  Words fill me with delight. When I read a quote by Emily Dickinson, I think I have died and gone to Heaven.  It is a simple joy just to look at beautiful quotes and soak them in.

One of my favorite new books, "The Emotional Eating Rescue Manual," by Dr. Melissa McCreery, mentions that women often lose sight of their strong desire to eat healthy when their life gets overloaded.  She says they then feel overwhelmed and this leads to overeating.   She encourages her readers and her clients, all of them successful women who are gifted and talented in so many ways, to connect with what lights them up and to make time for that.  And that is why I started this blog.  She also encourages women to make 15 or 30 minutes every day to write things down in their calendar and to plan what they will eat and when they will exercise, and even when they will sit down and do soul searching to find out why they overeat.  She says there is always something we hunger for that leads us to overeat and we have to pay attention to that and feed the true hunger.

I am working on that right now, and falling down quite a bit.  But that's okay.   Dr. Melissa, as she calls herself, says not to expect perfection.  And to treat mistakes as learning opportunities.  I just keep getting back up and putting one foot in front of the other.  Let me know if you have struggled with emotional eating in the past and if you have any strategies that help you eat for nourishment and for strength.  I would love to hear your comments.

If you interested in the book, here is a link to purchase it on Amazon.  It is really good. https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_2?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=emotional+eating+rescue+plan


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