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The Power of a Single Word to Transform Your Year

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New year's resolutions are difficult.  I like to keep it simple and choose a single word to focus on all year long.  My word for 2021 is PEACE.  It speaks to me.  Calls out to me.  Whispers to my heart.  By focusing on this word, I will make the time to take walks in nature by myself.  I will shut off my phone while I am eating lunch or dinner, instead of listening to CNN and the constant stream of political stress.  I will turn out the lights before midnight and get the sleep I so desperately need. What word is calling to you?  Spend two minutes in silence and ask yourself what you really want or need to focus on in 2021 and then trust the voice inside.  You know what it is.  Now, claim it for your own.  And each day find small, yet important, ways to incorporate it into the fabric of your life.  If CURIOUS is calling to you, get a free language app and consider spending a few minutes every day learning Mandarin or Greek. Or consider signing up for an online class in a subj

7 foods to help moms in their 40s and 50s protect bone health

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You are a super mom  in your 40s or 50os.  You have a lot on your plate. Helping your child with online school or homework.  Keeping your family safe during this pandemic. Working inside or outside the home. Keeping your home running smoothly.  In all this craziness, do not forget to take care of you..  Next time you are grocery shopping online or at the store, try to put some of these  bone healthy foods   in your cart, all with nutrients and minerals to help you take good care of your bones: 1.  Nonfat or low-fat plain yogurt . I like plain Greek yogurt myself because it is high in calcium but low in sugar and I like its creaminess. Plus, it is delicious served with fresh blueberries, blackberries or raspberries. 2. Fatty fish such as salmon or sardines . Fatty fish is high in Vitamin D, an essential nutrient for strong bones. I like fresh salmon, but canned salmon and sardines are also good choices to protect bone health. 3. Leafy  greens such as kale, turnip greens or mustard

Lung cancer: nonsmoking women in 40s need to know these 10 truths

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 You're a woman in the know.  A woman in your 40s  who has learned to take good care of you. Rather than puffing on a cigarette, you're taking deep breaths and doing  yoga or meditation.  You're eating more veggies and less fast food.  You never miss a mammogram.  You go to the gym.  Lift weights and take Vitamin D to support  bone health .  Could you be missing anything? Quite surprisingly, yes.  Lung cancer is almost never talked about among women in their 40s or 50s.  During Lung Cancer Awareness Month, here are 10 reasons to start talking about it: 1.   Breast cancer may get more publicity and funding, but lung cancer is the leading cancer killer of women , and has been since 1987.  It kills roughly 1.5 times more wo men than breast cancer. 2.  That nagging winter cough that won't go away could be a sign of lung cancer.  That is what happened to this  healthy 28-year-old woman  who had the scare of her life but lived to tell about it. 3.  Twenty percent of women wh

7 easy ways for moms in their 40s and 50s to feel and look younger (from celebrity moms who get it)

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As an older mom,  I may be old enough to be my  child's grandma . But I sure as heck don't want to look or feel that old every day.  I've got a 2-year-old to chase after. And a 16-year-old daughter who doesn't want to stand out by having the oldest looking mom on the block. That's why, at age 50, I try to eat healthy and exercise regularly. But with young kids, I am often sleep deprived. I can't wake up at 4am to meditate or journal for an hour. I need short, simple things I can fit into my already too busy life. If your schedule is jam-packed like mine, you'll appreciate these mom-friendly life hacks for looking and feeling more energized and youthful. I went to the experts--famous older moms who look stunningly young and vibrant--to learn their secrets. Here are their top 7 tips for looking younger when you're in your 40s or 50s. 1.  Exercise every day.  Follow the lead of this  Asian mom who looks half her age  , yet rarely wears makeup.  Add some he

Lung Cancer Should be on Your Radar if You're a Woman. (Even if you've never smoked a cigarette in your life)

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There's a cancer women almost never talk about. Women are not just getting breast cancer and ovarian cancer, says Johns Hopkins cancer researcher and oncologist Julie Brahmer. According to Dr Brahmer, a growing number of women, ages 40 and up are developing lung cancer, even though they have never smoked or been exposed to secondhand smoke. Even scarier, lung cancer kills more women each year than breast, ovarian, and uterine cancers combined. That's what happened to my sister, the one in the yellow shirt above.  And when lung cancer kills a 48 year old mom of two who wanted nothing more than to see her two kids grow up--well that's not okay. It is not clear whether this rise in lung cancer among nonsmoking women is caused by environmental, genetic, or hormonal factor, explains Dr. Brahmer. That's why she and other researchers are currently investigating rising lung cancer incidence in women nonsmokers, and also pressing the government to allocate more money to this vit
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 Stopping the world to savor what's most important My finger on the remote, and my mind focused on my to do list, I was anxious to get my little one settled with her favorite show, and get to it.  Get to the laundry. Get to the exercise.  Get to the writing.  Expecting instant results, I was let down. No Internet connection.. And no amount of fiddling with wires or adjusting settings would do it. There would be no Little Einsteins for my daughter and no getting stuff done for me. What happened next was magical. My 2-year-old took an ordinary rag and arranged it just so.  Presto!  A table cloth for a special tea party. Right on the family room floor. Next came the tea pot and tea cups.  Followed by plastic tea cakes and cookies. We took turns pouring pretend tea for each other and my toddler said please and thank you like a little lady. It was delightfully fun and unexpected. I connected with my daughter, sharing giggles and eye contact. The connection was way better than one we wou

Jumping joyfully into my 50s

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Most women don’t jump for joy when they turn 50. But I am not most women. I am the one who promised myself decades ago I’d be young at heart no matter how old I got. If you are close to my age, you might remember those tacky displays at gift shops—the ones where if you were lucky you’d find your own name proudly featured on mugs, key chains or bookmarks.   One lucky day I found my name, Julie. More importantly, I found out that it means joyful or young at heart. Knowing that made little girl me smile.   That’s not what I was doing when I got my mail a few weeks ago and found a most unwelcome piece of mail. Yes, the dreaded invite from the AARP welcoming me to the 50s club. I scowled and told myself I’m not ready to be that old. I was on my way to my son’s 12 th birthday party and I had to be happy for him. So I put my mind on more youthful things and drove to the trampoline park where the celebration was taking place. One of the moms who attended my son’s birthday